Arguments & Conflict Statistics
Research findings about arguments & conflict, with linked sources and study limits. Historical figures describe their stated populations, not your relationship's future.
Key Findings
69%
The Gottman Institute describes 69% of relationship problems as perpetual differences.
85%
According to the Gottman Institute, 85% of people who stonewalled in its studied couples were men. This does not mean 85% of men stonewall.
20 min
The Gottman Institute recommends a self-soothing break of at least 20 minutes when overwhelmed during conflict. This is practice guidance, not a guaranteed recovery time.
Research finding
The Gottman Institute describes contempt as the strongest predictor of divorce in its research. This is an attributed research finding, not a diagnosis or prediction for an individual couple.
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How Couples Resolve Conflict
69%
The Gottman Institute describes 69% of relationship problems as perpetual differences.
www.gottman.com
85%
According to the Gottman Institute, 85% of people who stonewalled in its studied couples were men. This does not mean 85% of men stonewall.
www.gottman.com
20 min
The Gottman Institute recommends a self-soothing break of at least 20 minutes when overwhelmed during conflict. This is practice guidance, not a guaranteed recovery time.
www.gottman.com
Is Fighting Healthy?
Research finding
The Gottman Institute describes contempt as the strongest predictor of divorce in its research. This is an attributed research finding, not a diagnosis or prediction for an individual couple.
www.gottman.com
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